This is a continuation
of my answer to
Lana’s question from
the April 30th post.
To Attract the
Right Man
for You,
You Must Regain Your Happiness and Confidence
In my last post I said to let go of your attachment to him. You may be asking, What is attachment? And why do I need to let it go?
You Know You Have Attachment When:
1. Your happiness is dependant on someone or something outside of yourself
2. You will be disappointed if someone does (or doesn’t do)something that you want (or don’t want).
The reason that you need to let go of your attachment is because:
It robs you of your happiness - it gives it to the person you are attached to.
It pushes away the person you are attached to.
You Must Be the Source of Your Own Happiness. To get your happiness back, you must make the decision (which is using your power) to be happy regardless of what he does or says. You can have a preference that he is nice to you, even one that he love you, but none of that can be the cause of your happiness. This will take practice!
Choose Happiness!
You Must Claim Your Happiness. It is within you. Like the sun shining out from behind the clouds, your happiness wants to shine from behind the clouds of your anguish. You need to stand for it, instead of giving it away. (Besides a happy woman is an attractive woman!)
A Powerful Source of Happiness is Gratitude
Be Very Grateful For What You Have
A roof over your head
Food to eat
A hot shower
A friendly environment
A sweet ‘adopted’ daughter
A man who cares about you like a sister
Now make a very long Gratitude List. Include everything: the grass, the birds singing, the flowers blooming, qualities about yourself, qualities you see in others, indoor plumbing, clean water to drink, your health, the clothes that you own, your unemployment checks, friendships, that you live in the USA, your neighborhood, your neighbors, your car, your shoes, your feet, that you can walk, that you can see, that you are able bodied, your bed, your privacy, etc.
Read Your List and Add To It Everyday
This will help you:
1. Heal your emotional wounds
2. Give you energy
3. Bring more good into your life
4. Leave you feeling great!
When You Are Grateful, You Make Room for Receiving More Good into Your Life
Think of a huge plate of food. If you put a few bites in your mouth, but never swallow, at some point you won’t be able to get any more food in. Gratitude is like swallowing. It makes way for more.
If you want to be in a loving, healthy relationship with a committed monogamous partner, be grateful for what you have now and you will open the doors for him to be attracted to you.
Look for my next post for Part 3 of my 3 Part answer to Lana.
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