- Flirting Makes a Woman More Attractive
Smile
It’s contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet. Try it!
Compliment
Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely, Thank You!
Have Fun
Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
Eye Contact
Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don’t stare - it’s a turn off.
Listen
You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.
Make the First Move
Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello!
Be the Host
Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee
Use Props
Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.
Start a Conversation
The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.
Flirting is an Attitude
A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!
You make flirting sound so fun and like something to plan to do, and yet in my generation it was not considered good to be a flirt. How do we overcome that societal stigma and embrace this practice? Could be call it something else? Do you suggest married people flirt?
Carolyn, yes, flirt…especially with your husband. Want to keep the connection flowing between the two of you? MEN LOVE FUN!!! Flirting is fun! It will keep your marriage hot!!
When flirting with other men obviously your intention will make all the difference. Being happily married, you aren’t trying to attract another man. Be clear in your own mind about that and there will be no confusion with them. Do you want to influence and engage people in your business, in your social life, in your philanthropic work? Flirting will make all of it easier and more effective.
So, flirt, call it being charismatic, call it being a natural people magnet, or just call it flirting. Former Secretary of State Madeline Albright said that she used flirting when she was negotiating with the heads of state. If it’s good enough for Madeline, it’s good enough for me.
Flirting IS an attitude…that is so true. And it just makes the mundane interactions of life so much more fun. =D